10 Things My Favourite Movie Taught Me

I think I finally found a favourite movie. Now I can finally answer that annoying question. It’s not a new movie or anything. It’s not like I’ve watched the movie for the first time or anything. I just realized how much I actually love the movie and how, while being very entertaining, it challenges many ideas about society that should be challenged. So, by now, you might be wondering what exactly this amazing movie could possibly be?
“She’s the Man”
I bet you didn’t expect that, but let me explain just how much I love this movie. I’ve watched this movie a dozen times at least, and recently, I decided to watch it again. I still knew all the quotes that were GOLD, and it still made me laugh. Quite honestly, it should be put right up there with “Mean Girls” when it comes to pop culture. From tampons in the nose to changing in a bouncy house to cat fight in a girls’ washroom, there are so many scenes of this movie that can’t help but keep that smile on your face. Now what was that I said about how it challenges ideas about society? That’s what completely sold the deal with this movie and I. It’s full of so many satirical portrayals of gender roles and society that we all can learn from, and laugh about it. So here are a couple that I noticed, there are probably more, but these are 10 that stood out.
1.       1. This one is obvious but the whole “my gender does not make me less capable” idea. I mean the

whole premise of the movie is Viola proving that she can be just as good as the “guys”. It can be further applied to the philosophy of don’t let anything stop you from being who you want to be (if it’s like morally okay and all, there is a limit). So, at risk of sounding like a really cliché self-help book, the sky’s the limit.

2.     2.  Don’t let your friends or society in general tell you who to like, what is “beauty.”

If you like someone, just like them. Hiding it only hurts yourself and maybe stops you from experiencing something amazing. I mean, if your friends really do care about you, they won’t care. Maybe I can say this because I’m a girl and I don’t know how the whole guy (bro, brother, brethren?) thing works, but if it’s acceptable to make fun of someone for their crush/love/whatever, then that’s wrong. (unless you are into kids or something, then you need serious help).

3.      3.  In relation to the previous piece of advice, the other thing “She’s the Man” taught me was that it should be the inside that matters.Notice that I said it should be, not that it is. I’m not gonna kid myself into believing we live in a world that values personality over looks


. I’m also not saying that when looking for a significant other, one does not examine their “outward appearance”, present company included. However, that should by no means be the only thing that causes you to want the person. My High School English teacher articulated this principle the best, “There is always going to be someone more attractive and younger [the latter doesn’t matter now but it will when your older] than you. The only reason someone is going to stay with you, through all the crap of life will be because of who you are as person.  The only thing that someone can’t one up you on is being the best ‘you’ you can be.” (I loved Mr. H in school because of his daily tidbits of idiots).

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4. Don’t settle; set your standards high. Often when I say this, it’s misinterpreted to me, always look for the greener grass, for someone better. That’s not what I mean at all. By not settling, I mean don’t be with someone for the sake of being with someone. Because you’re told you should. Because you think you can’t do better. Because it “makes” sense.
With girls especially, I always see girls settling for jerks who treat them like crap but it’s okay because he’s not that bad. Relationships and love for that matter is about two people trying to do what’s best for each other, and respecting one another. Not that I’m saying Duke was a bad guy, we all know how dreamy he was. However, Olivia (granted, not knowing much about him) did allow herself to jump into the arms of the first cute guy who asked her out.

  5.Again, related to the previous point, this movie teaches you to not to let your boyfriend (or girlfriends) treat you like crap.I don’t think I need to articulate this more, but like stand up for yourself… and if it continues, get out.
 6. Never give up, even when there is no hope. If one good thing about Malcolm can be said, it’s his 

perseverance. He didn’t let anything faze him as he tried to gain the attention of Olivia, he just tried and tried again. I’m not saying that eventually, he will get Olivia; because we all know that ship has sailed (which now makes me think that this wasn’t the best example). However, his resilience should be admired. No matter how glum things look, don’t give up. Oh, and get a pet spider.

   7. Relationships are more than the physical. It was nice to see a high school movie, and the male lead, being emotionally vulnerable. It was also nice to see Hollywood emphasize that relationships are more than just

messing around and that as people, we are looking for our best friend in our significant other.

   8. The other use for tampons. I know that after watching this movie, we’ve all at the very least considered using tampons for nose bleeds, don’t bother denying it. I personally haven’t, mostly because I’ve never HAD a nose bleed, but it has sparked curiosity.
 9.  She’s the man also gave us a quick lesson in the socio-political history of high heels that I found particularly entertaining.
   10.   What it means to be a man. It made fun of the ludicrous image of what “manliness” should be in terms

of not showing emotion, trying to get as many girls as they can, being ‘tou
gh’, etc.  I think the beauty of this is that they did all that in such a humorous way that you don’t even notice this criticism. However, it challenges this stereotype. Saying that a man can be strong and whatever, but still show emotion (mentioned in #7).  It’s refreshing.

I know some of you are thinking that I’ve over analyzed this movie maybe a bit too much. Perhaps you’re right, but after watching it for 37 ½th time, things like this start to get noticed.   One thing that makes me sad about this movie is that it reminds me that Amanda Bynes was an amazing comedy actress in her time.

With all her craziness lately, we’ve since forgotten that. She was one of my heroes as a kid, from “All That” to “The Amanda Show” to “Sydney White,” I loved her. She had a bright future ahead of her and I hope that she will make a comeback soon. Anyway, that’s it. That is why “She’s the Man” is now my unofficial official favourite movie.

Btw, there were so many other quotes I wish I could have added but they didn’t quite fit. So to the few who read this, comment your favourite “She’s the Man” quote.
Song of the Post: Dirty Little Secret by All America Rejects

Quote of the Post: “I’m here for you bro. I got a lifetime of knowledge.” –Viola Davis

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Scatter Brain

I haven’t updated my blog in a while. The truth is I have lacked inspiration. Many days I have opened up my laptop, ready to make a post and then… nothing. Nada. Zip. Even today as I write, I’m kind of just letting the words fall out where they lay. Safe to say, my thoughts will be very scattered here. My thoughts have been very scattered in general. So many things have been on my mind lately that I haven’t really thought of anything.  That sounds like a contradiction but it’s the best way I can explain my thought process.
Thought. It’s an interesting concept in itself. I was on the bus today and was thinking about what sets us humans apart from the rest of the animal kingdom. I mean some could say our personalities but I think a valid argument could be made claiming animals have personalities as well. I mean, cats have attitude (I hate them), dogs are like little kids, cheeky but lovable, etc. No, I think what sets us apart is the fact that we are aware. Aware of ourselves, of the world. I’m not talking about the fact that we know we are alive. Animals know that. That’s what sets them (us?) apart from plants and stuff; but humans, we are aware. We think. We think past how to survive, find a mate and reproduce. Past the current situation at hand. We think abstract. We philosophize. We dream.
It’s actually pretty beautiful. Humans are an amazing, remarkable species. The fact that we have this ability tells us that there’s more to life than the laws of physics and biology (there’s chemistry and math too, JK, but you know what I mean). Back to the whole abstract thinking thing, it’s such an overlooked phenomenon that makes us special. Almost perfect.
However, then you turn on the news and see, well, everything. The tears, violence, disease, hunger. Hate. It’s like out special ability has evolved into this grotesque thing that far from what it was intended to me. Our ability to dream has allowed us to discover more ways to hurt. But even despite it all, I think, no, I know that there’s still hope for us.
We are all redeemable. I truly believe that.
This is a really short post. I apologize. I’m not gonna put a song or a quote with it. Just some food for thought:

In this broken world, how can we possibly be redeemable?

The Other Kind of Bad Person

I think I truly have lost hope for humanity. 

Yesterday was a perfect example of this. There’s this girl in my school, she a sweet girl but admittedly, a little (ok, quite) weird and can get pretty annoying at times. She always comes up to me and says “hi, how are you” and I usually just say “hi” back, because, that’s what you do- You are nice to people, even when they make you uncomfortable. Continuing with the story of yesterday, she came up to me as I was getting stuff out of my locker and greeted me. We talked for a bit then  I started to walk off while she went and said hi to another boy who was passing us. She tapped his shoulder to gain his attention and how did he react? He exclaimed, “Ew, get away from me,” and ran off. The girl, she maintained her smile and walked away before I could do anything. I can honestly say I admire her though, for keeping her chin up despite everything. The boy? He walked off to his friend and told her what had happened. His exact words were “(girl’s name) just touched me.” I expected the friend to be like, “So, what’s the big deal?” or something along those lines, but she replied, “That’s disgusting, you should put hand sanitizer on that or something.” I was disgusted at their behavior. Yes, I acknowledge the girl makes many people uncomfortable, but that doesn’t make her any less of a human. She is a human being! 

I was so outraged then I realized- I did nothing about it. All I did was tell my friends what happened and we all gasped at the inhumane actions of the people but what good is that? It’s like that scene in Mean Girls when Janis says  “There are two kinds of evil people in this world. Those who do evil stuff and those who see evil stuff being done and don’t try to stop it.”Well, she right (technically the screenwriter who wrote Mean Girls is right but you know what I mean). What good is complaining about how awful our world, our society, and do nothing about it. I tried making excuses for myself to why I didn’t do anything like “She had already left” “I don’t even know those kids” “I had to go, my friend’s were waiting for me” but they are just that, excuses, each one more stupid than the rest. I’ve realized, I was no better than they were.

We all watched those cheesy anti-bulling videos that were probably done in the eighties where there’s the victim, the bully and the bystander. They are usually so boring and terribly done that we all tune it out, but there is some truth to it. I’ve come to believe that the person who holds the most power in these scenarios is the bystander. It’s not the victim, for obvious reasons, and while it may seem like it’s the bully, it’s not. Chances are, the bully’s just another child who’s hurting. The bystander is the one who can turn the situation in two directions, do nothing and let the cycle continue or try and change things. Even if you don’t change the bully’s mind, by simply standing up for them, you’ve already impacted the victim’s life.

I didn’t intend for this post to be an anti-bullying rant. Actually, I was planning for it to be a whole thing about pop culture and why stupid thing get popular, etc. Somehow this happened instead and I think that it did for a reason. Maybe you’re reading this and tomorrow, you’ll have the opportunity to be the bystander and make a difference (ok, I’m sorry for this cliché). As for me? I’m gonna have a talk with a certain two people in my school tomorrow, lucky for me, their locker’s are near mine. 😉 

Song of the Post: Hero by Superchick
Quote[s] of the Post: (all by Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.)
“Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.”
“Life’s most persistent and urgent question is ‘What are you doing for others?’”


 “In the end we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.”