10 Things My Favourite Movie Taught Me

I think I finally found a favourite movie. Now I can finally answer that annoying question. It’s not a new movie or anything. It’s not like I’ve watched the movie for the first time or anything. I just realized how much I actually love the movie and how, while being very entertaining, it challenges many ideas about society that should be challenged. So, by now, you might be wondering what exactly this amazing movie could possibly be?
“She’s the Man”
I bet you didn’t expect that, but let me explain just how much I love this movie. I’ve watched this movie a dozen times at least, and recently, I decided to watch it again. I still knew all the quotes that were GOLD, and it still made me laugh. Quite honestly, it should be put right up there with “Mean Girls” when it comes to pop culture. From tampons in the nose to changing in a bouncy house to cat fight in a girls’ washroom, there are so many scenes of this movie that can’t help but keep that smile on your face. Now what was that I said about how it challenges ideas about society? That’s what completely sold the deal with this movie and I. It’s full of so many satirical portrayals of gender roles and society that we all can learn from, and laugh about it. So here are a couple that I noticed, there are probably more, but these are 10 that stood out.
1.       1. This one is obvious but the whole “my gender does not make me less capable” idea. I mean the

whole premise of the movie is Viola proving that she can be just as good as the “guys”. It can be further applied to the philosophy of don’t let anything stop you from being who you want to be (if it’s like morally okay and all, there is a limit). So, at risk of sounding like a really cliché self-help book, the sky’s the limit.

2.     2.  Don’t let your friends or society in general tell you who to like, what is “beauty.”

If you like someone, just like them. Hiding it only hurts yourself and maybe stops you from experiencing something amazing. I mean, if your friends really do care about you, they won’t care. Maybe I can say this because I’m a girl and I don’t know how the whole guy (bro, brother, brethren?) thing works, but if it’s acceptable to make fun of someone for their crush/love/whatever, then that’s wrong. (unless you are into kids or something, then you need serious help).

3.      3.  In relation to the previous piece of advice, the other thing “She’s the Man” taught me was that it should be the inside that matters.Notice that I said it should be, not that it is. I’m not gonna kid myself into believing we live in a world that values personality over looks


. I’m also not saying that when looking for a significant other, one does not examine their “outward appearance”, present company included. However, that should by no means be the only thing that causes you to want the person. My High School English teacher articulated this principle the best, “There is always going to be someone more attractive and younger [the latter doesn’t matter now but it will when your older] than you. The only reason someone is going to stay with you, through all the crap of life will be because of who you are as person.  The only thing that someone can’t one up you on is being the best ‘you’ you can be.” (I loved Mr. H in school because of his daily tidbits of idiots).

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4. Don’t settle; set your standards high. Often when I say this, it’s misinterpreted to me, always look for the greener grass, for someone better. That’s not what I mean at all. By not settling, I mean don’t be with someone for the sake of being with someone. Because you’re told you should. Because you think you can’t do better. Because it “makes” sense.
With girls especially, I always see girls settling for jerks who treat them like crap but it’s okay because he’s not that bad. Relationships and love for that matter is about two people trying to do what’s best for each other, and respecting one another. Not that I’m saying Duke was a bad guy, we all know how dreamy he was. However, Olivia (granted, not knowing much about him) did allow herself to jump into the arms of the first cute guy who asked her out.

  5.Again, related to the previous point, this movie teaches you to not to let your boyfriend (or girlfriends) treat you like crap.I don’t think I need to articulate this more, but like stand up for yourself… and if it continues, get out.
 6. Never give up, even when there is no hope. If one good thing about Malcolm can be said, it’s his 

perseverance. He didn’t let anything faze him as he tried to gain the attention of Olivia, he just tried and tried again. I’m not saying that eventually, he will get Olivia; because we all know that ship has sailed (which now makes me think that this wasn’t the best example). However, his resilience should be admired. No matter how glum things look, don’t give up. Oh, and get a pet spider.

   7. Relationships are more than the physical. It was nice to see a high school movie, and the male lead, being emotionally vulnerable. It was also nice to see Hollywood emphasize that relationships are more than just

messing around and that as people, we are looking for our best friend in our significant other.

   8. The other use for tampons. I know that after watching this movie, we’ve all at the very least considered using tampons for nose bleeds, don’t bother denying it. I personally haven’t, mostly because I’ve never HAD a nose bleed, but it has sparked curiosity.
 9.  She’s the man also gave us a quick lesson in the socio-political history of high heels that I found particularly entertaining.
   10.   What it means to be a man. It made fun of the ludicrous image of what “manliness” should be in terms

of not showing emotion, trying to get as many girls as they can, being ‘tou
gh’, etc.  I think the beauty of this is that they did all that in such a humorous way that you don’t even notice this criticism. However, it challenges this stereotype. Saying that a man can be strong and whatever, but still show emotion (mentioned in #7).  It’s refreshing.

I know some of you are thinking that I’ve over analyzed this movie maybe a bit too much. Perhaps you’re right, but after watching it for 37 ½th time, things like this start to get noticed.   One thing that makes me sad about this movie is that it reminds me that Amanda Bynes was an amazing comedy actress in her time.

With all her craziness lately, we’ve since forgotten that. She was one of my heroes as a kid, from “All That” to “The Amanda Show” to “Sydney White,” I loved her. She had a bright future ahead of her and I hope that she will make a comeback soon. Anyway, that’s it. That is why “She’s the Man” is now my unofficial official favourite movie.

Btw, there were so many other quotes I wish I could have added but they didn’t quite fit. So to the few who read this, comment your favourite “She’s the Man” quote.
Song of the Post: Dirty Little Secret by All America Rejects

Quote of the Post: “I’m here for you bro. I got a lifetime of knowledge.” –Viola Davis

Impersonating the Love Guru

How many times do you hear a guy rant about how “all girls” are shallow and don’t care about honesty, trampling all over their hearts. Then the same time here girls talk about how “all guys” act the exact same way. Honestly, I’m sick of it. I feel like the generalization of people dehumanizes them and is just plain immature.

I guess the major root of all this is the bitterness cause by failed relationships (or almost relationships) that seems to completely shape people’s paradigm of the opposite sex. Well, maybe that’s valid… to some degree. However, there are a few generalizations made about guys and girls that have always gotten on my nerves. Here is a few:
All girls friendzone the “good guys”. Ok, there are three problems with this. First of all, most guys who I have heard complain about being ‘friendzoned’ have never bothered to even ASK the girl out. Okay, you cannot complain about that if you don’t even have the guts to be assertive enough and ASK! She is not a mind reader.

 There’s a reason I never root for the best friend in books. You’ve known this girl for years, why suddenly when she’s into someone else you decide to tell her you love her. Like can you not?

Secondly, the other hand is the guys who do ask and the girl tells them she just sees them as a friend and they get mad. She is entitled to her own emotions and you can’t FORCE her to like you back. Some even just say yes out of pity but when there’s nothing there, there’s nothing there. The fact that you complain about that is very selfish and makes me question your ‘nice guy-ness”. This is also connected to the other myth nice guys finish last which isn’t true. Maybe the reason it’s not working with this person because they aren’t the person for you. You “finish last” because the “one” or whatever is the LAST person you decide to pursue and it’s magic.
The last thing wrong with this is girls are friendzoned just as much as guys… just saying.
All guys are jerks/ all girls are shallow. No, they are not. There are really nice people in the world. Yes there are some but if you just step out of your exclusive bubble and got to know new people, you would find them. Make friends with new people. Honestly, some of the best relationships come out of friendships because you’ve already established that sense of trust and not just liking someone based on their outside appearance. My teacher once talked about how stupid first dates are because people come all dolled up, acting like someone they are not and by the time you find out who they are, they are someone completely different. Also, a lot of people who think other people are shallow or jerks liked/dated those people in the first place based on their looks. If it was truly about whom they were, why are you complaining about it later. You’re just as shallow as they are.
Girls and Guys can’t be good friends without falling for each other. This sounds slightly contradictory to my previous point but it’s not, girls and guys CAN be just friends. Yes, some friendships bloom into more, but if every friendship bloomed then there would be no more friends and everyone would be in polygamous relationships. Your significant other should be your best friend, that doesn’t mean your friend will be your significant other. We live in the 21st century and let’s move on from that.  
Cheating. This isn’t so much a myth as it is a problem with relationships. Frankly, I don’t get it. Why do people cheat? Like I understand you finding someone else—which means you didn’t truly love the first person—but I don’t understand why you have to reel that person along while you hang out with others. If you’re over someone, move on. Why hurt them even more by cheating. I would rather be dumped for someone else than cheated on but stayed with. Also, the “other woman (or man)” baffles me. Why would you want a person who cheats. If they cheated on the previous person, they will with you. The whole affair confuses me. (LOL, get it, affair? :D)
Long Distance Relationships don’t work. I honestly can’t speak in certainty about this subject. I haven’t been in one that works but I know of some that have. My conclusion, some do work. It’s possible but it depends on the people. You know yourself. You know whether or not you can handle it.
Love at first sight. Ok, Disney ruined love—though they did finally get it right in Frozen. You cannot love someone by simply seeing them. You can be infatuated with them and then grow into love but not at that moment you met them. If you say you did, you’re a superficial person because honestly, the only thing you have to go on them is their looks.
Opposites Attract. This is both true and false. Yes, people can be attracted to people different from them, out of curiosity and what not. However, you have to have some stuff in common for a relationship to work. It’s just simple logic. However, two people are supposed to complement each other so the differences you DO have should work in harmony with each other.
Happy couples don’t fight. LOL! That’s the biggest lie. If you never fight, that’s actually a sign that something is wrong. Disagreements—when worked out—make a relationship stronger. Whether it’s a romantic one, family one, friendship, etc. People have varying opinions and they clash sometimes, it’s how you deal with it that matters.
Love is butterflies in my stomach. I literally wrote a whole post on this.here

So I guess that’s it. I didn’t mean to turn into a love guru or anything, I’m just tired of all the stupid, failed high school stuff and all.

Anyway, Valentine’s is soon so I guess it sorta fits, but my final thought is not rush relationships. I know you’ve heard it a million times but it’s true, when it’s right and it’s time, it will happen. (and that time is not when you’re 12)







Song of the post: Dear No One by Tory Kelly 













Quote of the Post: Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable. -Bruce Lee